Hey lovebirds, hope you’ve had a great week! I wanted to share my first-ever piece on Medium, all about how much I dislike default text. There’s even some online dating relevancy in there:
…straight guys, frustrated by low response rates from women, start to broaden their outreach by messaging a larger number of potentially less compatible women. This gets tedious, so they begin to automate the messages they send to gals.
Following a formula (skim her profile, find one identifying detail, mention it as a common interest, maybe find another detail if you’re feeling studious, quickly formulate a broad question about it to invite conversation, hit send) is the most efficient plan: it’s easy compared to agonizing over a charming cold opener, or actually reading every field of all those profiles, and then taking the time to write creatively to each person. To treat each individual outreach effort with care and attention to detail would be wildly inefficient.
Note that I’m NOT saying this is a smart formula to follow, haha. But it is a common one. You’ll have to read the whole piece for my complete take!
I’m flying to Florida next week for some crazy family stuff. I’m extremely unaccustomed to being in a warm humid climate in October and November; please send UVA-blocking thoughts my way. I might be a little hard to reach while I’m gone, but don’t you fret. I’ll get back to you guys as soon as I can if you reach out with online dating dilemmas. Happy weekend!