Quit being late to dates!

Are you ever late to your online dates? Even first dates? Yikes! I mean, sometimes there are valid reasons, but most of the time that comes off as pretty lame/rude. (This is coming from someone who is usually chronically late because she arrived early and then lost track of time checking Twitter in her car […]

That study from Modern Love

The most recent entry in the NY Times’s Modern Love column has been getting a lot of traction lately, with good reason! It’s a fascinating exploration of a sticky academic idea about how to forge love, with a catchy headline to top it off. In a nutshell, the study explores the idea that two people can […]

Mug Shots in Seattle on 1/31!

Hey folks! We’re having another Mug Shots event on Saturday, January 31st in Seattle’s Fremont neighborhood. Here’s what you need to know! The cost is $99 per person. We can’t accommodate last-minute drop-ins, so you’ll need to drop me a line to sign up ahead of time. You should bring your fully charged-up smartphone and/or tablet, with […]

Your love life and the holidays

My business picks up dramatically in January and February. I don’t do any extra marketing, but people feel this immense pressure and drive to get paired up based on New Year’s Resolutions and Valentine’s Day. I think some of it also comes from riding the Thanksgiving through New Year’s Eve gauntlet that usually comes with increased […]

Want to work with me for free‽

I’m starting a new project in early 2015, and you can totally take advantage—and get my coaching FOR FREE! If you’re the right fit, that is. :) I’m launching a short podcast project in which I talk a few clients through their online dating and relationship struggles. In order to do this, I’m working with a […]

Twitter Tips for Tinder™

Hey all! A Twitter pal recently shared an insight on how he used Tinder to great success. If you ever need to help someone whose preferred type of partner is “silly with a hint of bitterness” – putting “idiot” as the only word in the Tinder bio works wonders. It’s a scarily good filter. I agree! […]

Next Mug Shots event in Seattle on 10/26!

Hey everyone! I hope your transition into fall has been splendid. Mine has been great, but BUSY! And a little crazy… you know how they say things happen in threes? Well, our family car broke down, our washing machine flooded our basement, and the shelving in our closet came crashing down in the night narrowly […]

Ye Olde Tyme Usernames

Over the weekend, Grant was Googling something random and came across this PDF of Old English trade names and descriptions. I’m a linguistics BA who loves geeky creative portmanteaux and playfully pretentious references, so I immediately proclaimed that these would be a fantastic source of online dating username inspiration for a certain geeky set. I think […]

Latest newsletter is out!

Are y’all on my newsletter? Just a reminder that you might want to be! August’s issue came out today, about dating in and out of your league, and how to optimize for dating certain physical traits you find desirable without sounding shallow and obsessed with appearances. Sounds useful, right? I hope it was. Check out that […]

Flaking out on plans

This video from Alex Cornell totally cracked me up. (Via SwissMiss) It’s a little NSFW I guess, but all the curse words are bleeped. Here’s the thing; Alex is describing a totally real phenomenon, that’s in part technology and in part shifting social norms. The two really do go hand in hand. But rather than […]

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