A mini online dating TV roundup

Today is the day my Apple Watch is supposed to get delivered! I can’t WAIT to make you all some videos about how to turn off or better manage annoying dating app notifications. But since it’s not here yet, we’ll have to settle for this other blog post instead. :) Burger King’s recent Chicken Fries commercial […]

Email Debt Forgiveness Day… for online dating?

Do any of y’all listen to the podcast Reply All? (If not, you totally should start!) It’s a delightfully geeky, entertaining, well produced, and insightful show, started by a guy who left NPR and started a podcast about starting up a podcast company. This is that company’s first podcast. (Yeah, take your time parsing that […]

WWDC Mug Shots

Some of you know about Mug Shots, my events to help online dating clients get better pictures for their profiles. Some of you also know that I’m kind of a tech geek even when I’m not helping people wrangle their OkCupid profiles. I’ve been toying with the idea of hosting a WWDC-timed Mug Shots event […]

How to get free dating help via Steady

As y’all know, I just launched Steady, a call-in dating and relationship advice podcast on 5by5. This is a great way for people who can’t afford my coaching to get their questions answered for FREE! In case you’re unfamiliar with podcasts or 5by5 or me, I wanted to give y’all a few tidbits about how to make the most of […]

Announcing Steady on 5by5!

I have something SO COOL to show all y’all. Are you ready? It’s… Steady! This is a call-in dating and relationship advice podcast on 5by5. Kinda appropriate show art, right? ;) I can’t WAIT, y’all! This has been in the works for a while now; I’ve been dying to have a podcast again for ages. […]

Should you pay for Tinder Plus?

Tinder recently launched its new paid features, known as Tinder Plus. So far, they’re kinda lackluster and downright offensive to some people. NYC’s Metro US featured a Q&A with me about Tinder Plus, if you’d like to check it out! But if you’d rather read my own blog-postier analysis, here we go. :) Undo left […]

Some pre-Valentine poetic advice

Hi y’all! Ready for your annual reminder of my thoughts on Valentine’s Day? :) 1) Valentine’s Day is a made-up corporate bullshit holiday that puts enormous unnecessary pressure on both single and non-single people! 2) It’s really fucking hard to get a reservation! 3) As Dan Savage likes to point out, it’s kind of high […]

Nerding out about online safety

I don’t usually get excited when social media marketers send me infographics and ask me to publish them on my site. See, most of the folks who do this are shilling some scare-tactics advice to try and get you to pay for weird services or products that you don’t need. So imagine my surprise and […]

Digital picture paranoia

Hey y’all! I’m cavalier about my picture being on the internet, because I kind of have to be in order to build up a presence for my business. But LOTS of you are creeped out by the idea of some rando seeing pics of you online. (I totally get that.) I crowd-sourced some info about […]

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