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“Sleeping With Other People” free tickets!

Hey Seattle readers! Guess what? We get to go see a movie together for free! (Or, you know, you can ignore me and we can sit separately. Whatever. I see how it is.)

IFC films reached out with free passes to an advanced screening of a new film “Sleeping With Other People.” It stars Jason Sudeikis and Allison Brie, with fun supporting cast members including Natasha Lyonne, Adam Scott, Amanda Peet, Jason Matzoukas, and lots more.

You can watch a Red Band (kinda NSFW) trailer below if you want, but I kind of love going in spoiler-free myself. :) My take in a nutshell is that this film seems funny, interesting, sex positive, and relevant to the complexities and nuances of modern relationships.

The advanced screening is at 7 PM on Wednesday, September 9th in downtown Seattle. Details are all on this PDF, which you have to print out and bring with you in order to gain entry. Each pass is good for two people.

Advanced screenings are a fun peek at something the general public hasn’t seen yet, but they also tend to fill up fast as they’re first come first serve. Make sure you go early to get in line and get seats if you decide to come. And please, come say hi if you spot me!

Sleeping With Other People

Let’s learn from the Ashley Madison hack

Sometimes there’s online dating stuff in the news that I take forever to comment on. I want to really roll it over in my mind, think about what’s been published, and have a good handle on my thoughts. This Ashley Madison hack is a little different. I don’t care that much about the news, but […]

Why Anna Akana hates going to bars

Ha! I am catching up on emails after a long week of volunteering at App Camp for Girls. But of course, “catching up on emails” also means I occasionally catch up on Twitter, too, ya know? And this new Anna Akana video popped into my feed and totally cracked me up. (Stick around for the […]

San Francisco Mug Shots on June 9!

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We’re doing it! We’re having Mug Shots in San Francisco on Tuesday, June 9th, from 3:30-5:30 PM, at an awesome outdoor patio in walking distance from all the main WWDC action. It’s a mere $129 (plus whatever you consume) per person for a fun happy hour that’s ridiculously cheap compared to a full portrait session. Email […]

Dating apps on Apple Watch

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I got an Apple Watch because I’m a big dork, and I was really excited to be an early adopter of this new product. (I know smartwatches have existed for ages, but I’m deep in the Apple ecosystem so I wasn’t that interested in offerings from other companies.) But in secret, I also got it […]

A mini online dating TV roundup

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Today is the day my Apple Watch is supposed to get delivered! I can’t WAIT to make you all some videos about how to turn off or better manage annoying dating app notifications. But since it’s not here yet, we’ll have to settle for this other blog post instead. :) Burger King’s recent Chicken Fries commercial […]

Email Debt Forgiveness Day… for online dating?

Do any of y’all listen to the podcast Reply All? (If not, you totally should start!) It’s a delightfully geeky, entertaining, well produced, and insightful show, started by a guy who left NPR and started a podcast about starting up a podcast company. This is that company’s first podcast. (Yeah, take your time parsing that […]

WWDC Mug Shots

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Some of you know about Mug Shots, my events to help online dating clients get better pictures for their profiles. Some of you also know that I’m kind of a tech geek even when I’m not helping people wrangle their OkCupid profiles. I’ve been toying with the idea of hosting a WWDC-timed Mug Shots event […]

How to get free dating help via Steady

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As y’all know, I just launched Steady, a call-in dating and relationship advice podcast on 5by5. This is a great way for people who can’t afford my coaching to get their questions answered for FREE! In case you’re unfamiliar with podcasts or 5by5 or me, I wanted to give y’all a few tidbits about how to make the most of […]

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