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WWDC Mug Shots?

Some of you know about Mug Shots, my events to help online dating clients get better pictures for their profiles. Some of you also know that I’m kind of a tech geek even when I’m not helping people wrangle their OkCupid profiles.

I’ve been toying with the idea of hosting a WWDC-timed Mug Shots event for software developers who never have good pictures of themselves for marketing purposes.

I have no idea yet if this is really a viable idea—I just know that I see tons of folks who make mobile apps and have been using the same pictures since 2007 when the first iPhone shipped. ;) I aim to rectify this!

At the risk of seeming like a narcissist, I’m showcasing a few pics of myself and my husband because my past Mug Shots clients didn’t sign up to be examples for Developer Nerd Marketing. I’ll update with better pics as I track them down, but you can check out that Mug Shots page for dating-specific examples.


I hope this gives you the idea of what my events are designed to do. We create a chill environment (probably with alcohol) in which we all use tech in a casual way and capture natural moments where you look good because you’re actually enjoying yourself. (We will absolutely be playing Spaceteam, by the way.)

If you’re intrigued and/or need better pictures, please fill out my online form to help me gauge interest and figure out the details. (I hate that the typography doesn’t match, too—bear with me, this entire concept is in beta.) Cheers!


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How to get free dating help via Steady

Get it? MUG SHOT? You see because it's

As y’all know, I just launched Steady, a call-in dating and relationship advice podcast on 5by5. This is a great way for people who can’t afford my coaching to get their questions answered for FREE! In case you’re unfamiliar with podcasts or 5by5 or me, I wanted to give y’all a few tidbits about how to make the most of […]

Announcing Steady on 5by5!


I have something SO COOL to show all y’all. Are you ready? It’s… Steady! This is a call-in dating and relationship advice podcast on 5by5. Kinda appropriate show art, right? ;) I can’t WAIT, y’all! This has been in the works for a while now; I’ve been dying to have a podcast again for ages. […]

Should you pay for Tinder Plus?


Tinder recently launched its new paid features, known as Tinder Plus. So far, they’re kinda lackluster and downright offensive to some people. NYC’s Metro US featured a Q&A with me about Tinder Plus, if you’d like to check it out! But if you’d rather read my own blog-postier analysis, here we go. :) Undo left […]

Some pre-Valentine poetic advice


Hi y’all! Ready for your annual reminder of my thoughts on Valentine’s Day? :) 1) Valentine’s Day is a made-up corporate bullshit holiday that puts enormous unnecessary pressure on both single and non-single people! 2) It’s really fucking hard to get a reservation! 3) As Dan Savage likes to point out, it’s kind of high […]

Nerding out about online safety

Data Privacy Month Quiz

I don’t usually get excited when social media marketers send me infographics and ask me to publish them on my site. See, most of the folks who do this are shilling some scare-tactics advice to try and get you to pay for weird services or products that you don’t need. So imagine my surprise and […]

Digital picture paranoia


Hey y’all! I’m cavalier about my picture being on the internet, because I kind of have to be in order to build up a presence for my business. But LOTS of you are creeped out by the idea of some rando seeing pics of you online. (I totally get that.) I crowd-sourced some info about […]

Quit being late to dates!

Sorry I'm Late

Are you ever late to your online dates? Even first dates? Yikes! I mean, sometimes there are valid reasons, but most of the time that comes off as pretty lame/rude. (This is coming from someone who is usually chronically late because she arrived early and then lost track of time checking Twitter in her car […]

That study from Modern Love

These people DO NOT feel that they are accurately represented by this pile of data! They're right.

(Credit: Shutterstock / Creativa Images)

The most recent entry in the NY Times’s Modern Love column has been getting a lot of traction lately, with good reason! It’s a fascinating exploration of a sticky academic idea about how to forge love, with a catchy headline to top it off. In a nutshell, the study explores the idea that two people can […]

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