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Happy reading and happy dating!

Flaking out on plans

This video from Alex Cornell totally cracked me up. (Via SwissMiss) It’s a little NSFW I guess, but all the curse words are bleeped. Here’s the thing; Alex is describing a totally real phenomenon, that’s in part technology and in part shifting social norms. The two really do go hand in hand. But rather than […]

OkCupid removed unpopular questions

Tons of my clients use OkCupid, and sometimes I have access to their profile backends for when we’re working on new writing, or when I need to see detailed info on their messaging or browsing history. The other day, I was working with one such client and I noticed something weird. Two specific questions seemed to […]

Getting engaged is no picnic

Just a friendly reminder that once you finally meet the person you want to settle down with, and you both bang like bunnies and take down your respective OkCupid profiles, all is not necessarily simple and awesome. Wedding planning can be a chore, haha. (NSFW language, but totally worth a watch.) (via A Cup of Jo)

How and when to ask for free advice

Source: Saint Murse on Flickr

I get a *lot* of requests to help people for free. I usually offer a few tips, because at the end of the day, I care perhaps to a weird degree about helping people exit bad relationships and find good ones. But I can’t and don’t always jump into Freebie Mode. I’d like to take a […]

NYC Online dating photo happy hour!

This is the view of Manhattan from the roof of the Brooklyn apartment I'm staying at. :)

Hey folks! I’ll be on the east coast again this fall. This means you Eastern Time folks can get a piece of me! I don’t have time for individual client sessions, but I hope to host another online dating photo shoot happy hour. Woohoo! Everyone has just  been eating these up; they’re amazing for singles but […]

The mere myth of compatibility


When I saw the latest blog post from OkCupid yesterday, I eagerly devoured it along with most of the internet. This isn’t just personal for me, obviously—understanding and dissecting how major dating sites function is a core part of my business. Let’s start with some links, shall we? You know, for those who like to […]

Online dating coaching vs. outsourcing


”Last week my pal Kate tweeted me this delightful link: I told you it was really gross dating tech guys in Seattle (cc: @askvirginia) — Kate K. (@kateseventy8) July 11, 2014   For now, let’s ignore Gawker’s weird graphic, and also put the issue of dating tech guys in Seattle on hold. I can guarantee that […]

My online dating photo toolkit

A briefcase with Cards Against Humanity, two iPads, several chargers, a deck of cards, a notepad and pen, and some business cards.

Hey y’all! If you’re subscribed to my free monthly advice newsletter, then you probably saw that our photo hour is today and we still have a couple spots left. Please get in touch ASAP if you’d like to claim a seat! Since we’re planning on doing more of these events in more cities (stay tuned!), I […]

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