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Dating apps on Apple Watch

I got an Apple Watch because I’m a big dork, and I was really excited to be an early adopter of this new product. (I know smartwatches have existed for ages, but I’m deep in the Apple ecosystem so I wasn’t that interested in offerings from other companies.) But in secret, I also got it because I was fascinated by the interesting and terrible dating app ecosystem that would surely emerge. 

Picture this: you’re on a date with someone you met on Tinder. Your watch pings and the face lights up… with a picture of someone who just matched with you on Tinder. Your current date catches a glimpse of your glowing Apple Watch face with its obvious Tinder notification, and is instantly reminded that you’re totally both seeing other people and thinking about other people. Your date suddenly feels all chemistry and spark fizzle out in a watch-assisted instant. AWK-WARD, right!?

I was determined to take a look at how the dating app ecosystem could help and possibly harm your love lives. Let’s pretend this justifies my $400+ purchase, haha. :)

On Day One, April 24th, the Watch app store only had dating apps from Match and OkCupid. Tinder wasn’t even on there! I recorded this whole long video, mocking IAC for missing the launch day milestone… and then Tinder released a Watch app a couple days later. D’oh!

I re-recorded. It only made sense—and this way I had a little more time to check out the existing dating app ecosystem and see the good, the bad, and the ugly. (Spoilers: it’s mostly kinda ugly.)

My video talks you through the four main dating apps available on Apple Watch: OkCupid, Tinder, Match, and Coffee Meets Bagel. But you might notice on my Watch home screen as well as in a text message with my husband Grant that there’s also an app called Clover.

There’s a reason I didn’t cover Clover in the video—it sucks. I’ve literally never gotten the Watch app to do anything at launch. (And plus Clover is new in general to the dating scene and therefore probably not worth your efforts just yet since the userbase is still pretty small. Give it time to grow!)

And hey, on the Tinder thing, it’s worth noting that there are PLENTY of third-party apps that handle in-app dictation well. I still can’t get over how bad Tinder handled this. Twitterific on Apple Watch does a great job with dictation—you can dictate a rely to a tweet, but you have the opportunity to look it over and throw it out if the microphone didn’t pick up your speech as you intended.

Twitter is very similar to Tinder, in that it’s a context where you really want to get the words right instead of just hitting “send” on something garbled and awkward, you know? Twitterific isn’t even my usual Twitter client on the iPhone, but I’m ever so grateful of its existence on Apple Watch.

Anyway, I hope you enjoy this walk through the main dating apps on Apple Watch—and I hope you, like me, will be ruthless in shutting notifications down and/or deleting these apps until these developers figure out how to offer you better functionality on your wrist. :) I promise to keep you posted.

Either way, happy early tech adoption and happy dating!

A mini online dating TV roundup

Today is the day my Apple Watch is supposed to get delivered! I can’t WAIT to make you all some videos about how to turn off or better manage annoying dating app notifications. But since it’s not here yet, we’ll have to settle for this other blog post instead. :) Burger King’s recent Chicken Fries commercial […]

Email Debt Forgiveness Day… for online dating?

Do any of y’all listen to the podcast Reply All? (If not, you totally should start!) It’s a delightfully geeky, entertaining, well produced, and insightful show, started by a guy who left NPR and started a podcast about starting up a podcast company. This is that company’s first podcast. (Yeah, take your time parsing that […]

WWDC Mug Shots?

Some of you know about Mug Shots, my events to help online dating clients get better pictures for their profiles. Some of you also know that I’m kind of a tech geek even when I’m not helping people wrangle their OkCupid profiles. I’ve been toying with the idea of hosting a WWDC-timed Mug Shots event […]

How to get free dating help via Steady

Get it? MUG SHOT? You see because it's

As y’all know, I just launched Steady, a call-in dating and relationship advice podcast on 5by5. This is a great way for people who can’t afford my coaching to get their questions answered for FREE! In case you’re unfamiliar with podcasts or 5by5 or me, I wanted to give y’all a few tidbits about how to make the most of […]

Announcing Steady on 5by5!


I have something SO COOL to show all y’all. Are you ready? It’s… Steady! This is a call-in dating and relationship advice podcast on 5by5. Kinda appropriate show art, right? ;) I can’t WAIT, y’all! This has been in the works for a while now; I’ve been dying to have a podcast again for ages. […]

Should you pay for Tinder Plus?


Tinder recently launched its new paid features, known as Tinder Plus. So far, they’re kinda lackluster and downright offensive to some people. NYC’s Metro US featured a Q&A with me about Tinder Plus, if you’d like to check it out! But if you’d rather read my own blog-postier analysis, here we go. :) Undo left […]

Some pre-Valentine poetic advice


Hi y’all! Ready for your annual reminder of my thoughts on Valentine’s Day? :) 1) Valentine’s Day is a made-up corporate bullshit holiday that puts enormous unnecessary pressure on both single and non-single people! 2) It’s really fucking hard to get a reservation! 3) As Dan Savage likes to point out, it’s kind of high […]

Nerding out about online safety

Data Privacy Month Quiz

I don’t usually get excited when social media marketers send me infographics and ask me to publish them on my site. See, most of the folks who do this are shilling some scare-tactics advice to try and get you to pay for weird services or products that you don’t need. So imagine my surprise and […]

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